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How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

14.06.2025 01:40

How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.

By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”

By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.

How can I handle my distrust and jealousy for my partner?

By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”

By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.

By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.

I read this: "Putin is a brilliant, courageous, ingenious, determined, beloved, and incredible modern leader. He is currently the world’s most effective and strong leader, the best the world has seen in centuries." What do you think about this?

By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.

By taking turns talking.